Do you ever have those days where you just feel like pulling the covers over your head and just not even trying to tackle the day? Well to be perfectly open with you guys, that was my entire week last week. It probably had a lot to do with the fact that I had been gone. I had not had any time to myself or downtime in about 3 weeks. It was just one of those weeks where I was wondering, can anything possibly go as planned and be easy?!? By the time Friday rolled around I was ready to curl up at home with John, my fur babies, and a cup of coffee and completely shut off my mind. Long story short, that didn't happen because I had potential customers contacting me expecting responses at 8:30 on a Friday night. At the point of utter exasperation, I did what most of us do and called my Mom 🙂 She reminded me of these beautiful things called boundaries. Was it my customer's fault that I was upset? No. That blame fell solely on my shoulders because I allowed myself to be accessible and to get to the point where something so small would frustrate me to that level.
Over the last month, I had slowly moved my boundaries to where outside factors encroached on my personal time and family time as well as my commitment to exercise. I was always accessible to my customers outside of business hours to the point where I had no time for myself. Slowly allowing my boundaries to be encroached upon affected me emotionally and creatively. I refuse to live life like that. There is no reason to live life at the point of exasperation.
SO, first things first, I had to re-establish my boundaries. I put a note on the front page of my business website stating that we hold normal business hours. If contacted outside of those hours, I have committed not to respond until the next business day. This will definitely be a challenge for me, but I have decided that my well being and my family's well being is more important than responding immediately. This doesn't mean that I don't love working with my customers it is simply putting up boundaries for when my work time ends and my family time begins.
Next, I had to recharge. I made a promise to myself that the next day I would do absolutely nothing work related. This meant no actual work, no blogging, no social media stats, NO nothing. In fact, I pretty much left my phone in our room for most of the day. I enjoyed time with John at the golf course. I read a book. I snuggled with my kitties. I drank a LOT of coffee! I made a meal and didn't take pictures of the process. The day was so rejuvenating on all fronts. It rekindled my fire of creativity. It refilled my quality time tank with my loved ones, and left me feeling rested and at peace.
I had been so caught up in my hustle that I had forgotten what I was hustling for and what inspired me to keep reaching forward… Am I the only one here??? If you are saying ME TOO, then let me give you a little encouragement. If you have overextended yourself and are feeling drained it is OK to take a day off for yourself. If you see the danger of getting to that point in your life, it is OK to not always be accessible to your customers, boss, or work outside of business hours. It is OK to set boundaries around your personal and family time. Take care of yourself and guard these boundaries fiercely. If you need a visual reminder to guard your boundaries like I do, I have made a free printable you can find here!